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Involving Your Children In Your Wedding Ceremony

  • Posted on March 22, 2012 at 9:27 pm

When you or your fiance have children from a previous marriage, it can be both enjoyable and beneficial to involve them in your wedding ceremony.

You can choose to have the children be a part of the wedding party and walk down the aisle in a variety of roles – from being bridesmaids or groomsmen, flower children, or ring bearers.  Children can also give the bride away!

I have officiated some very touching wedding ceremonies with wedding vows that say how much your children mean to your relationship.  You could say something like this in your wedding vow:

“CHILD’S NAME,  I love your mother/father very much, and I love you too.  When I take your mother/father as my wife/husband, I also take you into my heart as my own child.  I want you to know that you are important to me, and I will care for you always as your parent.”

Often a parent will offer a token – such as a watch, locket or rose – to the children, as a way to say that they love them.  Sometimes new parents will offer rings to the children as well and include them into the ring ceremony.

~ Your Vancouver Wedding Officiant ~ Roxanne Thornton ~ Marryus Custom Wedding Ceremonies

Are You Feeling Overwhelmed Planning Your Wedding?

  • Posted on January 19, 2012 at 5:36 pm

If you are, you’re not alone. In fact it’s common for couples to feel anxious when they begin planning their dream wedding. Here are some ideas to help.

Start Planning Early

It’s never too early to start planning, so don’t procrastinate. There’s an enormous selection of books and websites that will help you with important wedding decisions, budgets, and planning.

Create A General Plan and ‘To Do’ List

This will make your vague dreams specific and achievable. If at first this list seems insurmountable, prioritize! Pick your Number One goal. Determine the very next, small achievable action and take it. Repeat.

Don’t Try To Do It All Yourself

It’s important to delegate – but only to those people you absolutely know will get the job done. (Otherwise, you’ll be looking over their shoulder as well, and doubling your work load!) This is what your wedding party and family are for. (And they’ll likely enjoy helping!)

If It’s Too Much Work – Get Professional Help

You don’t have to blow your budget on a full wedding planner package. Consider a one-time meeting to get you started in the right direction, or a ‘day of wedding’ package.

Be Your Own Best Friend

Be easy on yourself. Remember: everyone attending your wedding cares about you. If the final result is not flawless, no one will mind. What your guests will likely remember is the love you expressed and demonstrated to your partner. That doesn’t cost a thing.

My E-book Can Help You

I write Unique Custom Wedding Ceremonies. For each couple, I provide my E-book (‘Creating Your Unique Wedding Ceremony’) with everything you’ll need– from Vancouver’s very best wedding vendors and venues, to the logistics of the ceremony, special rituals, vows, readings, music selections, wedding rehearsal tips, and much, much more.


Your Vancouver Wedding Officiant ~ Roxanne Thornton ~ MarryUs

Wedding Planning Pitfalls

  • Posted on December 14, 2011 at 12:08 am

To ensure that the planning of your wedding is as stress-free and enjoyable as possible, be aware of these planning pitfalls as you make your way through the planning process:


  1. Start with a realistic budget: include all the little costs associated with the wedding (e.g., cake cutting fees, marriage license). Don’t forget to include tax.
  2. Triple check your guest list: share your guest list with your families. This ensures there won’t be any surprise guest additions that will impact your budget and possibly your venue choice.
  3. Secure your wedding dream team and venue right away: vendors book up quickly.
  4. Be a contract expert: look out for mistakes, know what is included, and know what is going to cost extra. Ask your catering manager for floor plans and menus. Find out if they are expecting a price increase before your wedding. Know your final payment and guest count deadline.
  5. Know whose opinions count: be sure to share your plans for the wedding with anyone who has the power to veto them. Sometimes these opinions change the direction of the wedding entirely.
  6. Your invitations: triple check addresses, spelling, times, etc. Ensure all the information you need is included in your RSVP card (e.g., entree choices corresponding with the guest’s name). Start work on the seating plan as guests RSVP.
  7. About your wedding dress: purchase the dress you like best to ensure you won’t have a change of heart. Be sure to bring your proper undergarments and shoes to the fittings, so that the dress will be the right length and can be fitted perfectly.
  8. Account for flowers and decor: remember added delivery, setup, and take-down costs. If you are using friends as vendors, ensure they know that they are being depended on and what their jobs are.
  9. About those DIY projects: don’t leave them to the last minute. Tackle one project every few weeks and delegate if needed.
  10. Be aware of the perfect fit: ensure that your rings fit, that all of your wedding party has tried ON their attire, and that family members have arranged what they’ll be wearing.


Lastly, the biggest pitfall of all: procrastination! Plan ahead, and set goals for yourself so that you are not doing everything at the last minute. It is guaranteed that little things will arise the week of the wedding; by planning ahead, you will have time to address them so that you can enjoy the last few days before your wedding day.


(This article has been re-published with permission from both the author, Alicia Keats and the original publisher, Erin Gilmore. Alicia is one of Vancouver’s premiere Wedding Planners, and won the ‘Industry Achievement Award’ in the 2011 Professional B.C. Wedding Awards. Erin is one of Vancouver’s most accomplished photographers, and is the publisher of the annual ‘Aisle Walk’ magazine.)


~ Your Vancouver Wedding Officiant ~ Roxanne Thornton ~ MarryUs 


Acknowledging Your Parents On Your Wedding Day

  • Posted on November 30, 2011 at 3:30 pm

Yes – your wedding is your day. It is also a milestone event for your parents. Some could even see this as the culmination of a parent’s life work. Isn’t this worthy of recognition and gratitude?

Acknowledging your parents within your wedding ceremony can be done in so ways. Certainly there is verbal recognition. There can also be a larger acknowledgment – with the giving of a gift or incorporating a deeper symbolic ritual.

One couple I ‘married’ wanted to acknowledge the successful marriages of both their two sets of grandparents and their two sets of parents. At the entrance of their venue, they displayed enlarged posters of their original wedding pictures. Nothing could have expressed a deeper belief in the power and longevity of love!

Another couple wanted both a special verbal recognition and a gift for their parents – acknowledging that both sets had been married 42 years. In fact, these parents had been exceptional roles models and a beautiful example of wedded love. What could be more worthy of recognition?!

~ Your Vancouver Wedding Officiant ~ Roxanne Thornton ~ MarryUs 

A Word Of Advice: Treat Your Guests Like V.I.P.’s!

  • Posted on July 13, 2011 at 4:54 pm

Let me begin by asking a silly question: If you invited guests to your home for a celebration, would you take care of them or disregard their comfort? Assuming you made the former choice, I would also ask: Why should your wedding be any different?

Imagine a beautiful outdoor wedding, with guests awaiting the wedding party – while sweltering in the hot sun. This can be intensely uncomfortable for your guests – especially the elderly! So unless your venue can provide lovely protective parasols to protect each of your guests from the sun, please don’t make them wait and suffer!

Last year I officiated a wedding at one of Vancouver’s most prestigious indoor venues. No expense had been spared for the spectacular décor. Sadly, even though the wedding party was on site and could have started on time, the guests were made to wait two hours. Some guests became intensely thirsty; and while a bar had been set up just outside the doors, the guests could not get a drink – not even water!

Some cultural groups opt to start their wedding late. This is fine – only if every guest is aware of this, and given an indication of the true start time. The problem is of course, that not all guests are of the same culture, and have the expectation that the wedding start on time.

Of course, the primary focus of a wedding is on the bride and groom. Please just don’t lose sight of the fact that your guests should be treated like guests!

~ Your Vancouver Wedding Officiant ~ Roxanne Thornton ~ MarryUs 

Wedding Blogs Can Be Your Best Source For Inspiration!

  • Posted on June 20, 2011 at 6:49 pm

Top 10 Outside Wedding Decoration Ideas

  • Posted on June 14, 2011 at 3:43 pm